Dating an enfp
More abstract examples would be their worldview or values.
While they are popular, they tend to not care about popularity when selecting their mates.
They think they are aware of changes in emotion, but they will ask you what's happening even when you have a neutral face and nothing is going on.-No exclusivity because in name of authenticity they may treat everyone like is their damn best friend since they were born even though they've just met them last week.-They won't wait until you ask them "how is it going" they'll tell you what happens to them the second it happens and probably without even processing it.-They often blame others or "the system" for what's happening to them.-They are very fond of toxic people, and that's why they can date INTJs or similar personalities (sometimes).-They act like they love almost everyone, but yet they will talk shit about them with you because you're his or her partner.
It may seem irrational that he tries to "brush under the rug" (as you said) - but I'm sure he is trying to correct these issues in his way nevertheless.
Conflict is never enjoyable for an ENFP (emotionally I never want to feel combative with my partner), and such I try to be select and effective about the times where I must face problems.
It's a break from the usual, and what makes our best relationships UN-usual. You seem to have an overarching preference for the rational use of clear language.
I understand but sometimes I prefer something else.